Paul,
Sorry to hear about your issues with getting good advice and good work done from "professionals".
I installed a solar system on both of the boats I have owned with good results.
However, there are some things it is good to take into consideration when installing a new solar system. First, is shading. Your panels will not produce anywhere near their rated output even if partially shaded. The more area that is shaded and/or the longer period of the day where they are shaded (even partially) will have a larger impact, so panel placement is important. Second, especially since you do not have a generator, more panel capacity is better than just sizing for the minimum. I have not heard of anyone saying, "I installed too much solar".
Unless you purchase your components with "future expansion" in mind, it is always less expensive and easier to put in the max panels you have space for to start with. Here in BC and areas north where I cruised, we would get rainy days or heavy cloud cover, and sometimes heavy fog for most of the day (only sun for a couple of hours later in the day), and having a larger panel capacity is very helpful on those days.
On my Nordic Tug, I installed 2 panels totalling 570 watts, and most days (late spring to early fall) my batteries get back to 100% (fully recharged - back to float) by 2 PM or so. My electrical use consists of an 8 cubic foot RV style fridge/freezer, an Engel portable freezer, LED lights, AIS on 24hrs for anchor alarm, other small loads like recharging phones, etc. I feel I could have "gotten away" with a 400 watt system, but the cost savings would have been minimal, and there would have been more days where I did not reach a full recharge (possibly resulting in having to replace the batteries more often, eating up any savings?). Last item, buy an MPPT controller and not the PWM type. They cost a bit more, but are a lot more efficient.
Good luck.