That's a heartache, I feel for you.
Tank port gaskets should be donut-shaped rather than a disc, I have seen this happen many times. Preferred gasket materials are are Viton and Buna N.
The pitting is very likely from water, it has that look, I have seen aluminum tanks fail in as little as two years because water made its way into the tank through an improperly placed vent fitting. Were you showing any water in filters?
Aluminum tanks should be made from 5000 series aluminum, 5052, 5083, or 5086. If the tanks aren't painted, and they shouldn't be, you may be able to see this printed on the stock material somewhere and it should be shown on the commission tag, although that could be wrong.
Unless the tank builder used the wrong alloy, or if it somehow is off spec, I'm not sure you can hold him responsible. The failed gasket is his fault, and even if the gasket material was incorrect, and that's on him not his supplier, it should have been a donut not a disc (there is a photo of exactly this failure in the linked article) but that didn't cause the corrosion.
More here
https://stevedmarineconsulting.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/FuelTanksPt1-193-FINAL.pdf
https://stevedmarineconsulting.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/FuelTanks194Pt2-06.pdf
Not practical in your case, but this is the main reason I favor FRP diesel tanks, they are impervious to corrosion, from the inside or outside. I happen to be at the Grand Banks yard in Johor Malaysia now, they only use FRP fuel tanks, which they build in house.