I guess I am gaining some more weather experience the hard way. I've always been a bit of a weather freak and depend more on weather maps than forecasts many times. The part I'm still learning is that I always check the marine forecast for the area I am in. More often than not it will say "seas 1 foot or less". Many times that forecast will leave me in 3-4 ft swells. So when they forecast 1 to 2 foot seas, I know it's going to be rough!
The marine forecast only has to be right for about an hour a day... and that's generally easy.
If it helps, my fastest quick-check is a comparison of wind direction/speed against tide/current direction/speed at various forecast times throughout a potential travel day.
Wind against wave often sucks. Wind and wave together, often acceptable even if it seems odd.
Not foolproof, of course... but if that passes, I can evaluate area forecasts a bit more closely... and include normal weather forecasting for the area... and maybe even have an actual look outside
before making any decisions.
I do remember two really crappy weather days. Once fishing, where wind piped up and turned against the tide while we were out... and it went downhill from there. Eventually had to troll into the waves, but then it got worse and I had to worry about stuffing the bow pulpit... so we executed the best 180° turn I could manage and we called it a day. Somewhere during that one of the guys came up from the cockpit, saw how I was braced for that whole pendulum thing, and he beat feet back downstairs. Said they'd had no idea down below what it was like up above.
The other I remember was when the Admiral and I were moving from Georgetown to Southport outside. The Little River Swing Bridge was down, had been down for a few days, no repair prognosis in sight... with early Covid concerns about cross-state travel, and bridge staffing (or not?)... and the weather forecast outside was actually pretty decent. Reality set in, of course, and we had to re-arrange most of the stuff down in the saloon and galley afterwards even after slowing to a grim, three-times-longer-trip than we'd planned, at ~8 kts. Admiral still fairly leery about that whole "outside" thing.
But then again... I guess I'm lucky to be able to say those are the only two stand-out episodes -- over lots o' years -- where piloting from the flybridge wasn't all that great.
-Chris