I will install PVC ball valves after the PVC T to be able to isolate the macerator from the deck pump out.
You don't need a ball valve there, you need a diverter valve...aka "y-valve." (see attached photo for a typical example)
Do the diaphragm pumps work with a vacuflush toilet?
The holding tank is not a component in a VacuFlush system...the vacuum pump is the last component. It pushes the flush to the tank, same as any other toilet does. So any type of pump--manual, macerator, or diaphragm--that can be used to dump a holding tank connected to any other toilet will work to dump a holding tank connected to a VacuFlush toilet.
i looked up the 300 $ sealand pump there instructions are contradicting themselves they say you need a vented loop/siphon break between and the thru hull ? that would damage the duck bill like the seacock open .but on there same instructions the diagram does not show one?
No contradiction...all overboard discharge pumps including the Dometic/SeaLand T-Pump pull waste out of the tank and push it overboard, whether or not through a vented loop. So the tank contents move through the duckbill valves the "right" direction. A vented loop prevents sea water from starting a siphon if the thru-hull is left open when not actually in use dumping a tank,so there shouldn't be any pressure against the duckbill valves. The instructions for the T-Pump don't show a vented loop because it's totally separate from it and may not be needed in above waterline installations.
--Peggie