I have less experience that almost all of you. Even up with my sailboat we haven't anchored all that much.
The pulpit on my boat is reasonably robust, even so I wouldn't want to put too much force on it as others have mentioned. Here are what I see as my needs.
1. Secure the anchor. The PO of my boat used a small line tied to the anchor shackle and cleated to the cleat next to the windlass. This was effective but cumbersome. Instead, I have opted to use a SS chain hook on a 6' length of nylon 3 strand. When the ancho is raised, I place the chain hook on the chain and then clear down the snubber. I then realize the tension on the windlass so the weight of the anchor is held by the snubber.
2. Set the anchor. I have been using the same chain hook and snubber line for this. When the ancho is down and just before I set it, I place the chain hook on the chain and relax the windlass. I can then set the anchor with all the load being taken by the clear next to the windlass.
3. Secure the rode overnight. This is where I use the bridle. The anchor is already set, the engine is shut down, and we are completely secure. I take the thimble end of each bridle leg and pass it up and thought the pulpit (this is the only awkward part as I have to bend down to do it). These are then shackled to the chain with the soft shackle and line grabber. This is very quick and easy. Then each end of the bridle is passed through the hawse holes and cleated. I then release the snubber and let out chain so the load is taken by the bridle. I can let out up to 25' of bridle depending on the anticipated conditions. I then re-hook the snubber on the chain as a backup to the bridle. All of this may take me 1-2 minutes since I don't move fast.
Now, if I am sure of the weather and am in a very protected anchorage, I don't bother with the bridle. Then I will simply use the snubber. The chain hook I have will easily pass over the rollers and through my pulpit. I will have about a 4' length of line on it. If I want more line on a snubber, but don't want to use the bridle, I will just use the soft shackle with a single leg of my bridle line and pass it through the bow rollers.
What would be nice is to have a chain lock. I could use it instead of the snubber for #1 and #2 above. It wouldn't really be any quicker than using the snubber, but then I could eliminate that line on the deck all the time. That is where Twisted's chain lock would be nice. I will have to check with the builder and see what he thinks about mounting one in front of the windlass.